Life isn't Fair

How do you get used to that?

Published on March 7, 2006 By JillUser In Philosophy

The death of Dana Reeve really touched me deeply. That family suffered such hardship, such tragedy. Their young son has learned the 'life isn't fair' lesson in a very brutle way. How can such wonderful people suffer such tragedy when so many horrible people sail blissfully through life?

This is a question I simply can't get passed. I have seen it day in and day out during my 35yrs of life. Life can be so unfair. It just doesn't make sense.

I have had an extremely fortunate life. I have been blessed in so many ways. I have suffered very little loss so far. That worries me. It causes me to feel like the other shoe will drop at any time. I'm a worry wart and can't help it.

Everything happens for a reason just doesn't cut it for me in cases like Dana Reeve. Also, I was reading about a local benefit that will take place to raise money for a poor baby girl of only 2yrs old who has cancerous growths on her brain stem and spinal cord. Why does she have to suffer like that?

It just makes no sense.

**This is in the philosophy section. Please do not comment with scripture quotation. I don't mind you crediting or blaming God for such things, just don't get preachy.

Comments (Page 4)

Dr Guy

on Mar 13, 2006

Interesting discussion of the ones I read (about the first 20).

But your title says it all. Life is not fair. It is a roll of the dice on a craps table. Some win, some lose, but at the end, the house (death) wins every game. The only question is how we live the unknown we have, and what we do with it. Some will have 100 years, like Bob Hope. SOme will have but 7 or 8 like Amanda the Lemonade Gal.

It is the dash that matters, not the dates.

Dr Guy

on Mar 13, 2006

Baker, are you saying if your child was born, you soon found out he/she had spinal cancer, you would just say "Hey, that's natural"? Hatred it is natural, violence is natural, pain is natural. And are you saying that what happened to the Reeve family is a "usual" occurence? I will have to agree to fervently disagree with you on this subject Baker.

Ok, I read more. But let me answer (I have not read farther than this one). Of course you would rail and rant and rave! But in the end, you could let the hate and bitterness consume you, or realize that what your title says is true. I have a DS Nephew, and lost a nephew at the age of 2. Did my sisters (different ones) DESERVE either of those?

My DS nephew has given my family and my sister more love and appreciation of life than any 10 others, for that is his life and his lesson to us.

My Nephew (great actually) who died, brought my sister back to my family for she had ostracized herself, but we rallied around her.

Were the sacrafices worth it? Who are we to judge. Perhaps the question should be, did we learn anything from the tragedies?

Life is not fair, but to bemoan the unfairness is to miss the lessons that are a part of life. We cannot stop the unfairness, but we can learn from them.

And that is the real goal in life, right?

Dr Guy

on Mar 13, 2006

My hunch is there is more to the story than what you and I see from the headlines.

What more would you need to know to have it seem any more fair? Dana wasn't even a smoker!

I think what he is alluding to is that perhaps we have not been told the truth about lung cancer. Not that she was a closet smoker.

bakerstreet

on Mar 13, 2006

I guess what I am saying is if 'life isn't fair', maybe the problem is that our definition of 'fair' doesn't jive with reality. Thus, we expect what isn't possible.

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