How is Your Relationship With Your Mother?

As a mom, I am very interested, as a daughter too

Published on January 11, 2006 By JillUser In Home & Family

I have talked to a lot of friends about their mothers. Relationships range from being totally estranged to being like best friends. I find it fascinating how parental relationships affect how people mature and evolve.

I am extremely fortunate in the parent department. Don't get me wrong, my parents certainly have flaws but doling out unconditional love and acceptance has not been one of them. My parents always made me feel loved and valued. I never had to worry about not being able to go to them with anything. I knew they would help me no matter what.

I was also always aware that that wasn't neccessarily the norm. I appreciated what I had from a very early age. My friends would ask my mom questions they were afraid to ask their own mothers. I felt very fortunate.

I think my close relationship with my parents is what has lead to me being such a self assured, well grounded, stable adult. What is your relationship like and how do you think it impacted who you've become?

Comments (Page 2)

JillUser

on Jan 13, 2006

despite her being a single mother and not having much money (we were not well off at all, actually), she was able raise six children...and we've all turned out to be pretty decent people.

That is an incredible achievement InBloom!

Mother-daughter relationships have eluded me a bit, but I find them interesting to observe. I can certainly speak on the value of good father-daughter relationships.

Do you think being closer with your dad than your mom has affected your relationships with women? I feel very fortunate to not have had to make such a choice.

Thanks all for sharing so much!

kimk546

on Jan 13, 2006

Do you think being closer with your dad than your mom has affected your relationships with women? I feel very fortunate to not have had to make such a choice.

I do, to a degree. I am very close with my few female friends, but I've never been part of the streotypical circle of "the girls" that I think some women have. It's tough to pick out what may have resulted from the way I was raised from what would already have been my nature.
I do think I would have been closer to my dad even if they had stayed together (which is impossible to even imagine at this point).

I've had this book for years, "My Mother, My Self" by Nancy Friday, which apparently discusses the effects of a womans relationship with her mother. I've picked it up a couple of times, but lost interest within a few pages.

And thank you for posing such an interesting question!

JillUser

on Jan 15, 2006

And thank you for posing such an interesting question!

Thank you for answering it!

I've had this book for years, "My Mother, My Self" by Nancy Friday

I will have to check that one out.

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