Roses Just Because

Published on September 25, 2005 By JillUser In Blogging

I'm not saying there is ever a wrong time to give someone roses, but getting them just because you are loved and appreciated is the best. My husband brought me two dozen red roses today for that very reason. Not because of a birthday, anniversary or Hallmark holiday. He didn't need society to say "Today is national "Good Husbands Buy Flowers Day".

A lot of people who don't know my husband, and even some who do, give him a hard time because he doesn't usually do a lot on those "expected" occasions. They also think I am a doormat who "let's him get away with that" or that I am mistreated or underappreciated. They simply don't know our relationship.

I am the luckiest wife there is because my husband communicates so very well. It isn't always easy to hear and certainly isn't politically correct a lot of the time. However, I will never be one of those women whose husband just left out of the blue. If he is unhappy, he tells me in great detail why. Same goes for happy also.

I might not get roses every Valentine's day but let's face it, how creative and thoughtful is that? This last Valentine's day I got a long letter about how much he loves me and how much I mean to him. There simply aren't enough flowers in the world that hold a candle to that! Especially since we have been together for 14yrs.

How often do people buy flowers "just because"? Put a love note in with lunch even though you just kissed goodbye and will see each other in a couple of hours? How often do people try to put into words what their special someone means to them and why?

It's not the flowers that are romantic and meaningful, it is truly the thought behind them that matters.

Comments

Zoologist03

on Sep 25, 2005

Oh...now I have to say it: Awwwww....

~Zoo

Texas Wahine

on Sep 25, 2005

However, I will never be one of those women whose husband just left out of the blue.

I don't think anyone can confidently say this.

However, I absolutely agree with the spirit of this article. Showing appreciation for the ones we love is something that requires thought, effort, and being in tune with the unique nature of the relationship.

The "just because" and non-commercially-driven displays of affection and appreciation carry more weight than the cliché and on cue gifts and actions.

My husband is good at this type of thing. Two roses (one for each child I've given birth to!) and a candy bar on the way home from work, letting me sleep in on Saturdays and surprising me with donuts, leaving notes for me to find, and even silly things like letting me paint his nails (he'll kill me if he ever finds out I shared that!) are a few of the many unique and spontaneous ways he outwardly demonstrates his inward feelings.

Congrats to you Jill, on maintaining such a genuine, loving relationship for so many years, and for snagging a guy who is willing to let you know how much he appreciates your devotion and sacrifices.

Moderateman

on Sep 25, 2005

just because flowers are the best@!@@ good man and thoughtful too.

Zoologist03

on Sep 25, 2005

and even silly things like letting me paint his nails

...there's something a guy doesn't want out there.

~Zoo

JillUser

on Sep 26, 2005

don't think anyone can confidently say this.

I can say it very confidently since I know for a fact that he would give my a laundry list of why, when, how, etc. I think you mean no woman can confidently say her husband won't leave her. I agree with that. I think you are probably taking everything for granted if you state "My husband would never leave me." I'm just saying that my husband would give me plenty of warnings like if "X and Y don't change, I'm not going to be able to go on like this." He isn't the type to just keep things inside and look for comfort elsewhere.

My husband is good at this type of thing. Two roses (one for each child I've given birth to!) and a candy bar on the way home from work, letting me sleep in on Saturdays and surprising me with donuts, leaving notes for me to find, and even silly things like letting me paint his nails (he'll kill me if he ever finds out I shared that!) are a few of the many unique and spontaneous ways he outwardly demonstrates his inward feelings.

Sounds like you've got a darn good relationship too. And yes, he will probably kill you (as he should) when he finds out about the nail polish exposure.

Oh...now I have to say it: Awwwww....

Thanks Zoo!

KarmaGirl

on Sep 26, 2005

My husband is clueless. Well....he's been getting better, but anyone who knows him knows he's not the best communicator in the world. Luckily, he seems to be blind to my laundry list of imperfections, so I guess I'm lucky that way. He does try, though. Last Valentine's day he confused the females in the office. We came into the office in the morning and I had a vase of roses on my desk, and the other girls had one rose each. It took us awhile to realize that he got in with my spare key and did all that before he went to work at 7am. But, I've never gotten flowers "out of the blue" and I've actually only gotten flowers from him 4 times since I met him (almost) 12 years ago. He thinks flowers are "lame". Of course, I now have a project car that he is working on with me, so now he can buy me car parts out of the blue, so maybe that'll work for him. LOL

foreverserenity

on Sep 26, 2005

How sweet!

JillUser

on Sep 26, 2005

He thinks flowers are "lame". Of course, I now have a project car that he is working on with me, so now he can buy me car parts out of the blue, so maybe that'll work for him. LOL

Maybe showering you with car parts is his way of saying "I love you"

How sweet!

I thought so, hence, the blog about it.

bakerstreet

on Sep 26, 2005

My wife knows better, she'd see it as softening her up for some bad news or somthing, lol. If I gave her two dozen roses "just because", she'd worry herself sick for the next two days expecting the other shoe to drop...

JillUser

on Sep 26, 2005

If I gave her two dozen roses "just because", she'd worry herself sick for the next two days expecting the other shoe to drop...

Poor high strung, flowerless worry wort! I have always had the attitude of, don't wait until I'm dead to buy me flowers, give them to me now! There aren't many things I like to be surprised with. Flowers are one I do though.

Texas Wahine

on Sep 26, 2005

If I gave her two dozen roses

Hehe. The most I've ever had is a dozen. Roses are damn expensive.

InBloom

on Sep 26, 2005

~I am the luckiest wife there is because my husband communicates so very well.~

Sounds like a great relationship...good for both of you for keeping that line of communication open with each other.

drmiler

on Sep 27, 2005

If I gave her two dozen roses

Hehe. The most I've ever had is a dozen. Roses are damn expensive.

I'm pretty lucky in that respect. My wife likes roses but does not care to get them. She would rather get carnations instead.
Not if you do a little shopping first. From FTD:

Select Product Option
$29.99 - 1 Dozen Med Stem Red Roses
$38.99 - 1 Dozen Red Roses with Vase
$39.99 - 18 Stem Red Roses
$48.99 - 18 Stem Red Roses with Vase
$59.99 - 1 Dozen Premium Long Stem Red Roses in Vase

Plus a service charge of $10.99.

JillUser

on Sep 27, 2005

My wife likes roses but does not care to get them. She would rather get carnations instead.

Carnations certainly last longer but there is just something about roses.
He didn't have them delivered so there was no service charge. They put a smile on my face every time I look at them. I put them in the middle of the island in the kitchen because I am always in the kitchen.

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