2005, Not My Favorite Year So Far

Published on March 2, 2005 By JillUser In Blogging

Well, the first week of 2005 our good friend was diagnosed with cancer and was given a maximum of two months to live. Not a good way to start the new year.

Next up, lots of snow and the flu pays a visit. First our older son feels yucky for a couple of days but recovers quite quickly. Then our friend, after spending a couple of miserable weeks in hospice care, passes away. Next, our little one gets the flu. Worse than his brother but still, not too bad compared to what we are hearing from others. Then comes my turn. I am knocked off my feet for a good week.

The weather has continued to be cold and lots of snow still coming our way. I am sick of being sick, sick of being cold and sick of dealing with snow. So, 2005 has not been my favorite year so far. It has plenty of time to turn itself around though. Here's looking forward to sunshine, flowers and seeing the neighbors outside again.

Comments (Page 1)

trina_p

on Mar 02, 2005

I'm sorry about your friend (and your year) Jill

xtine

on Mar 02, 2005

sunshine, flowers and seeing the neighbors outside again

Yes yes yes!!!!

JillUser

on Mar 02, 2005

Thanks Trina.

Myrrander

on Mar 02, 2005

hope the spring brings some better things your way, Jill

cheers

Danny Bassette

on Mar 02, 2005

The year is far from over, there is plenty of time for much goodness to happen in it yet. Mayhaps that is why the year starts in winter? So you can get the badness out of the way at the start.

MasonM

on Mar 02, 2005

I hope things start looking up for you. My year hasn't exactly been great so far, but I am remaining optomistic that things will be brighter.

Dynosoar

on Mar 03, 2005

Hi Jill,
Long time no read.... Ah, the trials, troubles, test, and tribulations of life.
It can either be depressing and down right loathsome, or exciting and enjoyable.

All that snow will melt, it looked beautiful ( for the first couple of days ) and the kids are alright, and so are you.

Not being condecending, and intended as only a lil' pick me up, I quote some unknown sage;

" I was sad and upset that I had no shoes, until I met a smiling person, with no feet ".

The only rationale I can offer for the loss of your friend is there is no longer any suffering, pain, or anguish, peace has come to your friend and you should rejoice in the memories you shared.

I hope the rest of the year goes well for you ( one way to look at it is that it can't get much worse...so it can only get better)

So it goes......

JillUser

on Mar 03, 2005

I hear ya Dyno. I don't have it bad at all. I agree that at least my friend isn't suffering but am still not over how much it sucks that she suffered as much as she did. Really awful things happen to really good people sometimes and that is a hard thing to accept.

I heard a local story that snapped me out of feeling sorry for myself in the least. A local woman gave birth to twins, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a couple days later and died the next day. I can't even wrap my brain around how horrible that is!

When I have full mental capacity, I am aware of how wonderful my life is and that I have absolutely no right to complain about anything. But the flu had my brain in a grey fog and I wasn't feeling mentally or emotionally myself.

I am feeling optimistic now, especially since the sun is shining

Thanks for all of the nice comments.

Moderateman

on Mar 03, 2005

hello jill, was wondering how you was handling the friend with cancer.. see that your doing well under the circumstances.

You are going to see one of the PENALTIES of living longer is seeing more of your friends die. sucks, but part of life. You can honor your friend by having good thoughts and kind words.

Winter??? Snow?? whats that??/ COLD? another strange word.. NOT part of a Californians vocabulary. kid

JillUser

on Mar 03, 2005

Winter??? Snow?? whats that??/ COLD? another strange word.. NOT part of a Californians vocabulary. kid

Oh sure, rub it in!

Dynosoar

on Mar 03, 2005

Cali - home of mudslides, brush fires, and earthquakes, hum.....
I'll take the cool NC winters, ( a few flurries, an inch of snow literally brought Raleigh to a 20 hour stand still ) sultry summers with temps in the 90's ( and that ever present humidity hovering around 90% as well )
Then again the "chin" of NC pokes right into the path of the frequently traveling hurricane ( 3 last year, 15 in the past 10 years ) even our mountains suffered hurricane induced flooding this past year ( we got our flooding back in 99 w/ Floyd )

Double hum, I started out to jab you on your California compassion, yet as I surmise my post it's basically the same thing here, just different coast ( complete w/ illegal labor, strange politics, and the occassional Carolina Blue Sky......)

To once again steal a Vonnegut quote; So it goes.

dharmagrl

on Mar 03, 2005

Jill...
I am sorry that you've had such a sucky year thus far. I wish that we lived closer so I could help you out....or at least give you a hug when you needed one! As it is, a cyber hug will have to do. {{{{{{{{{JILL}}}}}}}}}

Into every life a little rain must fall, and it seems that you've had a bit of a downpur since the start of the year...but the sun will shine again. Trust me.

Much love to you and yours....from me and mine.

JillUser

on Mar 03, 2005

Hey there dharma. I should be the one hugging you since you have your pain management problems. At least I know the flu will be completely gone soon. I have no right to complain. I'll take the hug and run with it though

Love and hugs right back at ya.

foreverserenity

on Mar 04, 2005

Hi Jill, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. I second Dharma's cyber hug to you too. Hope you get to feeling better and enjoy the sunshine moments in your life.

Moderateman

on Mar 04, 2005

11 by Dynosoar
Thursday, March 03, 2005

Cali - home of mudslides, brush fires, and earthquakes, hum.....

except for that little burp in 1989 {lomalita} we in the north do not have that mudslide, raging fire crap for the most part.

Here a little rumble 5 on the richter scale barely stirres my coffee. lmao

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