How many couples truly put their marriage first? In a world where 50% of marriages end in divorce (and the other 50% in death Quoted from Justice League), it is easier to just make excuses as to why marriage doesn't work rather than face the fact that most people just don't try. I used to think that I was just being selfish or even a bad mother when considering going out with my husband more often. Now I know that it is the best thing we can do for our family.
Life zings by at an alarming rate these days and it is far to easy to get caught up in what we percieve as what we are supposed to be doing. We are supposed to expose our children to every "enriching" experience available. We are supposed to help them with their homework every night. We are supposed to do everything we can for them...right? Aren't happily married parents on the top of the list for well adjusted kids?
I have seen too many couples arguing about either things they want to do for themselves or things they "have" to do for their kids. They won't think twice about buying Columbia coats and Nike shoes and Tommy Hilfiger clothes for their kids or themselves but wouldn't consider spending $200 on a weekend getaway for the two of them.
Too many couples "grow apart" because they allow it to happen. They lose interest in what their spouse is experiencing. How many wives know what their husband really does at work? How many men care about how their wives spend their day? In thier down time, do they do things together or do they plan separate recreation. My parents, for instance, didn't do things together. She always wanted to get out and do things. He always wanted to read or watch TV. I think they are both bitter now that they never did things for their marriage. Not a single trip together (post children). I am grateful for all they did for me but saddened that they didn't take care of themselves the way they should have.
I want to show my children that they are of utmost importance but that it is just as important that their parents stay connected and happy. It doesn't make sense to me to shower your children with all of your time and money then pull the rug out from under them by braking up your marriage.