As you can tell from the name of my site "More than just mommy" I consider myself more than just a homemaker even though my main job is staying home to care for my children and our household. I still have a foot in the career world since my husband and I (I helped establish the company) have a software company. I am the Human Resources manager so I still do an important job. If I don't do my job, people don't get their paycheck and benefits.
Once the boys are both in school, I plan to go back to the office part time. Our priority still stands with having a parent home whenever the children are home. I am also hoping to be active with school once the little guy is a little less demanding. You just can't work full time and do all of those things.
I always feel torn when people ask me "so what do you do?" I truly am a stay at home mom but that isn't all I do. Usually I tell them I'm a homemaker rather than explain anything else. It is funny how you get the "Oh," as in, "Oh, that's all you do." From so many people. It is mainly women. I don't know if it is jealousy or that they feel above me.
Staying at home is very rewarding but it can be hard on the ego. You don't get the assessments, raises, awards, etc that you might get in the work place. I don't have any impressive title. I don't feel like "Hey, I earned that money, I can treat myself." I have to remind myself that my contribution is important.
My husband is very good at making me feel good. He often tells me how good I am at preparing good meals or at making the home comfortable. Our boys have a very stable home life and I am able to be there for the children in our neighborhood also. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
My problem lies with relating to other ladies I know. I haven't met any others that are in limbo like I am. They are either a career woman or completely homemaker. The career women think I don't have my husband do enough around the house and the homemakers, well, I don't know what they think. I can't relate to the families where the man makes all of the money and then comes home and helps with the house work also. I just don't believe that is right. I have worked full time and can't imagine coming home to a second job.
My husband is a wonderful Dad. He plays with and talks to the boys. He has so many responsibilities at the office, I couldn't imagine pawning the kids off on him when he got home. On the weekends we try to do things as a couple or as a family. I have a lot of friends that say I don't do enough for myself. I can't complain. I have a wonderful life. I am just selfish in different ways than a lot of the women I know.
Well, those are the random ramblings that were running through my mind just now. Better go feed my children some dinner.