The adventures of Mommy woman

Perhaps sleep apnea is the SIDS of the adult world.  Anyone else ever hear of someone as young as 31 passing away in their sleep?  It just happened to the little brother of my oldest and dearest friend.

Yesterday morning I was putting my little girl down for her morning nap when the phone rang.  When I got downstairs after getting her settled, I listened to the voice mail that was left.  It was my dear friend and I could tell by her voice it was bad news.  All she said was, "Deb, please call me today if you can."

My dear friend is currently battling colon cancer and I knew she was due for some tests so my first thought was 'God don't let it be that she got bad test results!'  When she told me the news I was absolutely shocked.  He was a seemingly very healthy person.  He had sleep apnea though and he hadn't been doing anything about it.

This person wasn't over weight, had no known health risks.  They think he just stopped breathing.  Sounds just like SIDS to me.  I do know that they say apnea is often a sign of heart problems so maybe they will discover it was his heart.  My friend wants to know.  She, of course, can't and doesn't want to believe it.

Thoughts and prayers for my dear friend Debbie who has had to handle far more than her share of tragedy lately, would be very much appreciated.  She has catscans on Wednesday.  She has to have good news...she just has to.


Comments
on Jun 04, 2007
it's difficult to watch those we love suffer
It sure is.  Thanks LW.  They are doing an autopsy.  It is happening right now in Chicago.  A weird twist of fate, one of his high school class mates is performing the autopsy.
on Jun 04, 2007
My wife's step brother died a year ago that way (he was 36). No warning or signs.  I dont have an answer for your question.  But I wonder myself.
on Jun 04, 2007
it can be incredibly stressful for even the most well-balanced individual.


I've had a stomach ache since I got the news, have been in a funk and didn't sleep with a darn last night. I know my friend well enough to know that right now she is okay because she is in shock and denial. When she is faced with seeing him, well, it's going to get bad. I hope my being there to lean on will help in some small way.

I'll update with autopsy results once I hear. I really resent being reminded of how fragile and fleeting life can be. It just sucks.
on Jun 05, 2007
As cliched as it sounds, head over with food.


I wish I could but I'm driving over 5hrs just to get there. I know a lot of people from their church and neighborhood that will be sure to feed them though.

I know what you mean about not trading war stories. No other death can compare to the loss of your loved one. We were just talking about how we used to grab his towel and lock him out of the house naked. That was before he got big enough to give as good as he got.

Thanks for the prayers regarding her health. I simply can't consider the thought of losing her and I'm sure it would simply kill her parents.