Beautiful People

It's not fair!

Published on March 26, 2006 By JillUser In Misc

I caught a Faith Hill and Tim McGraw video on TV while flicking channels and couldn't help thinking "Why on Earth should two people be so beautiful and talented?!" They make singing look effortless. They make the simple act of walking look like something I simply can't do.

There are so many things I hate about my body. Many are from my own doing but many are from genetic "gifts". I have pale skin that simply doesn't tan. Freckling and burning are the only things I can do with my skin.

I have vericose and spider veins and get wonderful stretch marks. I'm knock-kneed, I have a funky looking nose, etc. I've had treatment for the veins but keep getting new ones. I am too scared to ever do anything to my nose. I don't know anything you can do about having your knees touch.

I don't know what part of people like Faith Hill comes from genetics vs things they have done on their own merits. I tend to believe they were born with an awful lot of talent. Singing, for instance, is something that you have to have some talent at to become exceptional. Sure, you can take lessons and learn but that only gets you so far. Just like people can diet and exercise like crazy and still have no control over the basic build of their body.

I can't really complain. I appreciate the fact that I am healthy. I wasn't born with any abnormalities or disabilities to overcome. I just can't help but be a little jealous of the beautiful people though.

Comments

Trudygolightly

on Mar 26, 2006

I'd be willing to bet that most people, at some point in their lives, wish they were different. Whether it's wishing we were a blond princess, or a cute little gal from Hawiaii with long black silky hair...

I DO know what you mean about "beautiful people" though, most of us don't have the genetics to be that goregous, or have their talents. "BUT"....they can't ever be YOU! no one can replace Jilluser! no one can love your husband and children the way YOU do. You have talents and are unique, so please don't ever forget how special you are. Every human is.

singrdave

on Mar 26, 2006

Is it schaudenfreude (glee at others' misery) to know that beautiful people sometimes have ugly children? The prettiest couple my wife and I have known had the ugliest darn baby. And some not-so-great-looking couples have had gorgeous kids.

So maybe there's some eternal justice in knowing they may have butt-ugly kids!

Locamama

on Mar 26, 2006

but even the beautiful people are not perfect, faith doesn't have boobies and tim doesn't have hair. I think all of us even the beautiful ones tend to see our imperfections bigger than anyone else does. I do wonder what it would be like to be drop dead, stop in your tracks, turn around and stare gorgous for even a day. I have been called cute or pretty but never beautiful. The thing is even some of the models don't look so gorgous when they are not completely done.

AngelaMarie88

on Mar 26, 2006

Pardon my editing the beginning of my comment. It was in poor taste.

Anyway, as far as gorgeous, talented celebrities go, let's try not to pay too much attention to them. In recent years I've felt my own self-image improve as I've given less heed to ladies on magazine covers and MTV. Not everyone can be model-perfect or sing on key. We normal folks are blessed with being able to concentrate on more important things outside of our appearance and marketable talents

dynamaso

on Mar 27, 2006

It is the imperfections in people that make them interesting, IMO. Some of the most beautiful people I've met in my life have also been the most insecure. Very few have it all together and if they do, they are particularly down-to-earth people.

Texas Wahine

on Mar 27, 2006

Jill: I'm also a pale chick with "tiger stripes" (stretch marks)! Hehe.

I think, as a general rule, "beautiful people" (the people who are beautiful to the degree that almost everyone finds them so) have an easier time with life. They sail though life with great tables at restaurants, salary increases, better grades, etc. on virtue of their looks because most of us tend to favor beautiful people. And want them to like us.

My youngest is one of those kind of people. My oldest is a good-looking kid, but my little one...he's just a beautiful kid. The kind that people stop and comment on everywhere we go. I worry about that because I think that he may have advantages that he didn't earn, and I worry that that those unearned advantages will keep him from meeting his full potential.

Have you watched "Shallow Hal"? Really cute movie, and it kind of touches on this topic...the idea that beautiful people don't have to develop engaging personalities and work on people skills the way the average or ugly do. I don't think that's across the board true, but I do think that it CAN be that way. A beautiful person might not always have to "try"...and so they may decide "why bother" and stop trying all together.

For the record, from the pics I've seen of you, I think you're a really lovely woman and I'd be happy to look like you!

Dr Guy

on Mar 27, 2006

I know at least 3 men (soon to be 4) that think you are Aphrodite and god's gift to men! And like someone told me, I am sure you are much more talented and beautiful than your harshest critic portrays you as. And we all know who that critic is.

crimson

on Mar 27, 2006

I could spend hours picking apart what I don't like about my looks. My genetic gifts, however, include thick hair, a fairly young look, and perfect skin for the summer- I never burn. But, often I wish that I could have paler skin because it's so difficult matching foundation/powder tones. I sometimes wish I looked older, so that some of the older men at work would chat with me, as apposed to the younger guys, who I later find out were born in the mid-eighties. And thick hair is a pain in the ass, at times. It goes frizzy in the humidity and is simply electric in the dry air. And what's up with acne at 35?!!!

I wonder what it's like to be drop-dead gorgeous? To have heads turn in my direction when I walk into a room. To have guys' attention first, and not just have 'buddy'charm. Yeah, I wonder, sometimes.

JillUser

on Mar 27, 2006

For the record, from the pics I've seen of you, I think you're a really lovely woman and I'd be happy to look like you!

I can honestly say the exact same thing about you TW!
You said some extremely true things. It is a fact of life that people are drawn to beautiful people and want to be liked by them.

Thanks Dr. Guy. Brad and the boys do make me feel beautiful and special. And you are right, I think we all are our own worst critic. I bet Faith Hill doesn't see herself as others do. I bet she has plenty of insecurities and truth be told, I would never want to be in a position where everyone in the country was constantly judging what I was wearing, how I styled my hair or if I gained 2lbs.

You have talents and are unique, so please don't ever forget how special you are. Every human is.

I agree Trudy.

So maybe there's some eternal justice in knowing they may have butt-ugly kids!

You obviously haven't seen Faith and Tim's kids

The thing is even some of the models don't look so gorgous when they are not completely done.

You are right there. Sometimes they look really bad without makeup!

We normal folks are blessed with being able to concentrate on more important things outside of our appearance and marketable talents

I don't see being a beautiful, talented person as excluding you from having your head and heart in the right place though. I think that is discrimination to think that way. Some of the most beautiful people on the outside are beautiful on the inside too....and some are ugly on the inside. I believe what's on the inside is more important but who doesn't want to look great on the outside?!

Some of the most beautiful people I've met in my life have also been the most insecure.

I would agree with that. I think there are both privileges and pressures that come with being beautiful.

There have been times in my life when I have felt beautiful- My wedding day, although I look back and nitpick now, I felt beautiful that day; When I had my children I felt the love around me and the beauty of my babies made me beautiful. Some, mostly my husband, tell me I am glowing right now. I don't see it. I see blemishes, swollen ankles, etc. but they way he looks at me, I can believe for a moment that I am beautiful.

JillUser

on Mar 27, 2006

My genetic gifts, however, include thick hair, a fairly young look, and perfect skin for the summer- I never burn. But, often I wish that I could have paler skin

I guess we all have a "grass is greener" outlook don't we.

jennybean

on Mar 27, 2006

Some, mostly my husband, tell me I am glowing right now. I don't see it. I see blemishes, swollen ankles, etc.

I agree with Brad! You most certainly do look beautiful and glowing lately. I should hope to look as great going on a third child!

And like someone told me, I am sure you are much more talented and beautiful than your harshest critic portrays you as. And we all know who that critic is.

I agree with that! And you are being way too modest! What I wouldn't give for those gorgeous blue eyes!

JillUser

on Mar 27, 2006

Wow Jen, you made my day! Thinking that I have anything that a gorgeous young hottie like yourself would want definitely brightens my day.

jennybean

on Mar 27, 2006

Wow Jen, you made my day! Thinking that I have anything that a gorgeous young hottie like yourself would want definitely brightens my day.

Haha!! Well what you just said made mine as well!

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