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Published on March 1, 2006 By JillUser In Blogging

After reading a lot of the responses to the recent activity her on JU I felt compelled to defend a few things about the site.  First of all, I am sick to death of people claiming there should be some fear about what you write about in your blogs.  If you really believe that, you haven't been paying attention.

Sure, you can't Title your blog 'So-n-So on JU is a @#$%'.  You can't make your article about what an asshole some blogger, admin or Brad is.  You can however make complaints about whoever you want in your article.  Brad is more open minded about criticism than most people around.  You just can't come on his site and make personal attacks.  If that is unreasonable to you, than yeah, you do have to worry about what you write about on JU or you need to go somewhere else to blog.

If you want to write about how you like to have sex with barnyard animals, go right ahead.  Label it adult content and blog away.  People have blogged about many different things that are considered outrageous by many.  Look how many people blog about illegal drug use, different sex acts, etc.  They haven't been censored or booted.

If you think that refraining from personally attacking Brad or other admins is 'walking on eggshells' then yes, you do have to worry about what you write.  Again, this is not an unreasonable request.  Common decency is expected, no, demanded.  If you can't handle that, too bad.

Finally, like TW pointed out in her blog, JU isn't 'fair' in the respect that all bloggers aren't created equal.  There are different access levels.  There are people who have earned some leway here and others who have done quite the opposite.  This is something that is present throughout the real world too.

When I began blogging here I wasn't up front about my real world identity.  I didn't lie about anything, I just didn't devulge anythint.  I did this because I wanted to earn my own friends or enemies on my own merit.  I didn't want people sucking up to me or hating me because I am Brad's wife.  I think it worked out well because the people who met me before they knew who I 'really' was treat me the same now as they did before but I do think new bloggers who know my identity often weigh their responses differently.

Luckily, most bloggers here treat each other with common courtesy.  Things get heated every once in a while but it rarely devolves to personal attacks.  Brad doesn't ask for kudos or sucking up.  He doesn't even ask that you refrain from challenging things he says.  He only expects that you do it in a respectful manner and not make it into a personal attack.  If you think that is too much to ask then I argue you are the one being unreasonable.


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on Mar 01, 2006
In person, I tend to be pretty "goofy". But that doesn't translate on-line, especially if you're busy and only have time to state things briefly.


Hehe. I saw you once on MSNBC. You seemed much friendlier.
on Mar 02, 2006
a real shame when people push you to an article like this.


No, I believe, she felt she owened up to naturally and loyally defending her husband while giving insights to his character. Good for Jill.
"Brad doesn't ask for kudos or sucking up. He doesn't even ask that you refrain from challenging things he says." Amen.
on Mar 02, 2006
Exactly right stevendedalus. Thank you very much!
on Mar 03, 2006
You could have gotten really defensive when Brad said you 'flipped out'


Well, it would be pretty lame of me to flip out over it Especially cuz he's 100% Grade A Choice Correct about my record of doing such.

You are always welcome on my blog Myr.


Thanks. I figure we even managed to talk about even religion nicely, so that's saying something.

I wish Marcie would take a page from your book.


Well, Marcie's under a lot of stress (and so are a lot of people, I know). My greatest tendency to flip out always came when I was stressed out, drank a little too much, and just started going weird. Teaching was a big catalyst for it. Now that I'm working for the Parks and Tourism department (lots of outside, close to nature work, oh yeah, it rules), my whole disposition is a lot calmer. And I get to help look after and teach about a great assortment of birds (including bald eagles), fish, snakes, and other critters.

Right now we have a flock of geese in the park, and they're all hot and bothered and looking for love. It is so incredible to watch, like having a "Nova" special in your back yard.

All that is to say, I understand what the classroom teacher goes through, and so I tend to cut Marcie some slack. Of course, I don't know what a CEO goes through, but I'll cut anybody who works 100+ hour weeks slack.

Cheers.
on Mar 04, 2006
like having a "Nova" special in your back yard


I'm soooo jealous! Brad keeps 'Nova in the back yard' going for us usually. He's been known to save tadpoles from swamps that are about to get dozed over and raise them into frogs. He got a turtle his mom rescued last year, kept him in our kiddie pool on our deck along with some giant snails and then put them all in the awesome pond by the office.

Even though we are in suburbia we still get lots of bunnies and birds in the backyard. I need to get some thistle and put my finch feeder out. I love watching the bright yellow finches.

All that is to say, I understand what the classroom teacher goes through, and so I tend to cut Marcie some slack. Of course, I don't know what a CEO goes through, but I'll cut anybody who works 100+ hour weeks slack.


Very kind of you Myr.
on Mar 04, 2006
Brad doesn't ask for kudos or sucking up. He doesn't even ask that you refrain from challenging things he says. He only expects that you do it in a respectful manner and not make it into a personal attack. If you think that is too much to ask then I argue you are the one being unreasonable.

Well said.
on Mar 04, 2006
Thanks Mason!
on Mar 04, 2006
You're welcome, Jill and thank you for answering.
on Mar 08, 2006

I wanted to add something to this:

Bloggers actually have a lot more leeway on what they write if they DO NOT also post their blog to the global forum system.  It's one of the options, on by default.  When people post to the forums, it falls under moderation guidelines which essentially say "Don't crap on admins". 

 

on Mar 09, 2006
When people post to the forums, it falls under moderation guidelines which essentially say "Don't crap on admins".
Equitable point.
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