Blacklisting Myself

Published on May 5, 2004 By JillUser In Blogging

As I stated in another blog of mine, I practice what I dub as Self blacklisting. I found that there were a couple of blogs that just set me off on a tangent that I didn't enjoy myself being in. I just felt negative during and after the visit so I decided to not visit anymore.

Well, I recently lifted my self imposed ban for one of those blogs and found myself reinforcing why I had blacklisted myself. I also decided to ban myself from another blog. I used to find that particular blogger intriguing and thought provoking but now I just find that when I visit said blog I leave irritated and aggitated so I won't be around for a while.

I guess I am writing this mostly to alert some of my cyber friends and family to why they aren't seeing me around some of my old hang outs. I am finding it hard to say anything nice in some places so in order to not say anything at all, I need to avoid the situation. I don't have the time or energy to be annoyed by such things.

And that's all I have to say about that (a la Forest Gump)

Comments (Page 1)

shadesofgrey

on May 05, 2004

I do the same thing, though I'm not always good at sticking to it! I kind of wish there was a "self-blacklisting" feature so that when my willpower wears down and I really feel the need to throw my 2 cents in I won't be able to!

dharmagrl

on May 05, 2004

I'm going to have to start doing the same thing. I find myself getting way too emotional over things that some people say...so I'm simply going to have to exercise some self control and not visit their blogs anymore. It's going to be hard, because it's soooo tempting to just let fly at what they've said...but it does me no good, and throws me off center for the rest of the day.

MadPoet41

on May 05, 2004

And that's all I have to say about that

(a la Forest Gump)

Jill~Forrest Gump is one of my all time fave flicks! . I got the video and the soundtrack. Anyway, I understand where you are coming from. I've been having to avoid certain blogs and bloggers now too. But I am like you when it comes to constructive comments and such. If a blogger is only making me feel negative (and sometimes purposely provoked) I will start to avoid him/her big time. Yeah, sometimes I will slip, and revisit the blogger again~against my better judgement. But usually these negative bloggers tend to be quite vocal in their deliberate rudeness. And so it's hard to ignore that sometimes? Especially if they are saying mean spirited things about another blogger you like and respect a lot.

And it's kind of tough to ignore when YOU are the one being judged in a most public way, but are not in that resentful blogger's house to defend yourself big time. So I think you are doing the right thing for yourself, k? And if it's any consolation? Your concept about a blog being like a house is true brilliance (IMO). And I am a poet~so words and images mean a great deal to me. Thanks for another excellent blog! And I am really sorry that this sort of thing is happening to you too? But it all will work out okay in the end. I am totally on your side Jill. Thanks for another truly insightful blog!

~MP

crimson

on May 05, 2004

I think we are all going to have to hang out together at Jill's place, then... I've got a real hate-on going for a blogger that is just childish... Resistance is not futile! I can maintain some self-control!
Peace, sisters.

Jamie Burnside

on May 05, 2004

Sorry. Sometimes I can't help "stirring the pot."

I hope that you come back and visit me soon.

JillUser

on May 05, 2004

Jamie, I would never stop visiting you. I often just enjoy the pictures without saying anything. Didn't get that last one though

Jamie Burnside

on May 05, 2004

That was just a needless post of a Jm J Bullock image. It is weblog "dadaism" at its best.

Have a happy day,

Chipperprime

crimson

on May 05, 2004

I love it, Jamie... if Joeuser ever allows avatars one day, I suggest that you use an image like this. Posting his picture is not needless...

Draginol

on May 05, 2004

There are some people's blogs I generally don't visit unless there's a hot topic there.

KarmaGirl

on May 05, 2004

Yeah, there are a few names that I try to avoid. A lot of time I read things and don't respond because I know what I say would not be heard right. You need to develop a very large verbal filter when talking online

JillUser

on May 05, 2004

It's not just that I can't control myself from commenting but also that I leave with a negative feeling. Like Dharma said, it throws me off center. I don't need any help in that department

KarmaGirl

on May 05, 2004

It's not just that I can't control myself from commenting but also that I leave with a negative feeling.

Yeah, I know what you mean....but that also adds to the addiction of this place. It's like you just have to keep coming back to see what was posted after you posted what you shouldn't have posted. It's all just so very wrong......

shadesofgrey

on May 05, 2004

It's not just that I can't control myself from commenting but also that I leave with a negative feeling.

I just did it again. I said I was walking away, I walked away, and then I took a quick peak--and my blood literally started boiling, I typed my response and hit send--all without really thinking. Hmm--as the baby sis, I suppose it fits that I would be the hot-headed one with the least self control!

crimson

on May 05, 2004

It's like you just have to keep coming back to see what was posted after you posted what you shouldn't have posted. It's all just so very wrong......

well said, Karma... I know what you mean.

Dan Kaschel

on May 05, 2004

I never even thought about self blacklisting... good idea. I might do that myself... certain blogs tend to bring out the worst in me.

~Buddha

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